Pregnancy & Birth Experience

After Ruahné was born, I have received quite a few questions from other soon to be mammas with regards to my pregnancy and birth experience. So I asked on my social media pages if you guys would like it if I did a live talk. The answer was a resounding yes!


So on Thursday, Ruahné turned 3 months old (how did we get here so soon?😱). And when she took a nap - I decided it was now or never! I did the live talk in Afrikaans as requested, but decided to do the blog in English for the rest of you!🤗


You can watch the Afrikaans Live here:

Instagram Live Part 1: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cbw7dVLKLRC/

Instagram Live Part 2: https://www.instagram.com/p/CbxDGxiKkFD/


Please note that this is NOT any medical or pregnancy & birth related advice. I am simply sharing my experience. Please consult with your doctor / midwife or relevant health care professionals before you make any choices.


I also do not want to trigger anyone or make anyone feel bad about their own experience. The ultimate theme of the Bible is about choosing LIFE. And if both you and your baby came out of this whole ordeal alive - it's a win! Regardless if your baby was born normal, via an emergency C-section or a scheduled C-section.


Also this post is a long one... it's our personal journey so it's impossible to give you the full picture without giving you all the detail.

 

Pre-Pregnancy


When we got married, we said that we would wait at least five years before we start with a family. If it was André's choice - he would have had kids straight away. But we agreed that we'll wait a bit and just enjoy married life for a while. We got married when we both were 23 years old - three weeks before my 24th birthday. (We are both 1992 babies, but André's birthday is in October & mine in April.)


Several times when people heard that we wanted to wait at least five years they would tell us that once we have kids, we would regret not starting sooner. However, I can truly say that it's not the case. So if you felt like this as well - it's completely normal. Once kids are born - they are part of your life for the next 18 years at least. And whilst it's a beautiful adventure, I believe that it's super important that a husband & wife prioritise their marriage. Once the kids are out of the house, you don't want to feel like you're living with a stranger. For us, spending time as just the two of us was really important.


At the start of April 2021, we celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary. And at the end of April 2021, we found out that I was pregnant! Abba's sense of humor is THE best! We said five years and He kept us to our word.


I was on the pill for just over 4 years. At the end of September 2020 I decided to stop using the pill. Me & my hubby spoke about it - seeing that we knew so many people who struggled to fall pregnant after being on the pill. I also read up a little more about the pill myself and did some research on the reaction it triggers in your body, the side effects and long term complications, etc. And even though we didn't plan on trying to conceive back then, I didn't want to continue using the pill. So I stopped using it there and then.


I then tracked my period with my Garmin app & also started to track it with the Flo app (a friend recommended it to me & I can seriously recommend it to you as well). So from October 2020 until April 2021 I used these apps to track my ovulation dates - until I obviously found out that I was pregnant.


Pregnancy


So, I suspected that I was pregnant during the week of my birthday. Even before my period was due, I just had a strange feeling that I might be pregnant. I thought of buying a pregnancy test and test on the morning of my birthday (it was on a Friday) and then if it was positive - I could surprise my husband with it, since he was very keen to start with a family for since we got married!🤣 But the week was super busy & I honestly thought that I probably was not pregnant. But by the Sunday, my period still didn't come and my period was always regular. So a late period was strange. I then told my hubby that I think I might be pregnant & we then got a pregnancy test which I did on the Monday morning & we found out that I was pregnant.

I have shared my husband's reaction when he found out on Instagram - if you want to watch it: https://www.instagram.com/p/CVQauVmqHrj/


I was truly blessed with a super easy pregnancy!


The week before we found out that I was pregnant, my energy levels were depleted. By eight at night I could barely keep my eyes open. But I didn't think too much of it (despite having the gut feeling that I might be pregnant). As the few weeks before that & that week as well - I had super early mornings. Earlier than usual and more hectic days than usual. So I though that it was just burn out from the intense schedule. Which I still believe it was mostly, but the pregnancy's hormonal changes obviously also played a massive role as well.

I had a bit of morning sickness from round about week 6 up until week 16. But it wasn't severe. I'd wake up in the mornings and either had to run to the bathroom and then it was all over for the rest of the day. Or I'd wake up and know I'm fine - no nausea and then I'd be fine for the rest of the day as well. I was nauseas for say 2-3 days average per week.