I cannot begin to imagine the moments I would have missed. I am so glad I didn't listen!
~ After the response on my Instagram stories the other day, I decided that this deserves a permanent spot on the feed. ~
Disclaimer: When I share my opinion on motherhood; it's not about judging others. It's about understanding & learning that there is more than one option to do things. You do what works for you!
• Sleep training does NOT teach your baby how to sleep.
>> They still wake as often as they would. The only difference is that they learned that no one is coming to them if they signal (call/cry). Thus it won't help to signal.
• Leaving your baby to "cry it out" does NOT teach your baby to self soothe.
>> Babies do not have the psycological ability to soothe themselves. Once again, all they learn is that no one is coming to assist them.
• Nursing your baby to sleep goes against "all of the books"
>> Nursing comforts your baby - the way Abba intended it to work. People argue that nursing to sleep is a bad habit, but putting a pacifier in their mouths is no problem. Both provide comfort. The difference is - you are the comforter. It takes something from you. Your time & your commitment. When you give the child a pacifier, you are free to go.
They are little for such a short while.
They won't always need you the way they do now!
There is nothing wrong with your baby for wanting & needing you!
Maybe there is something wrong with society's view that babies have to self soothe and moms who value their own priorities over their babies' priorities. When you become a mom, your baby should be your number one priority!
The baby did not ask to be born. But you are well aware how babies are made. The choice was yours, regardless if it was planned or not!
Society's attempt to brainwash the world is working perfectly! The hustle of the world says that moms need to rush back to the life and body they had before having children.
If your life looks the same as it did before you had kids, after you had kids - you are doing something wrong!
Raising children is one of the most (if not THE most) important things you will ever do in your life. The world want to make you believe that it doesn't carry value and that you need to do more & be more.
But I am telling you today that being a mother is doing more than enough!
Disclaimer Number 2: I am not on a high since becoming a mother. I have always had this view on motherhood. The reasonwhy I haven't shared this before becoming a mom myself is because I knew there would be trolls coming at me that say it's easy for me to say as I am not a mom. So I waited... and now the trolls can't come at me haha.
It's time we quit listenig to the world's fear based messages that tells is that nursing your baby to sleep is creating a "sleep crutch." Or that soothing a crying baby is creating a needy baby. Or that if you co-sleep now, you'll never get them out of your bed.
You will always have time to incorporate changes and shifts if YOU feel the NEED for it. Not because you feel pressured.
Most babies will sleep independently at some stage without any guidance / training from anyone - WHEN THEY ARE READY TO!
Our little one slept through for the first time at roughly 7/8 weeks old.
Please note: This does NOT happen every night. She usually feeds once / twice per night. Someti